I’m not anti marriage/relationship
I’m anti unhappy marriage/relationship
This doesn’t mean that I don’t want to get married some day. I’d love to get married one day but I’m not going to marry some one just for the title or attention. I’m also not going to marry someone who makes me unhappy.
I know that relationships can be tough and rocky but I believe that there are some things you should be able to work out and some things that are red flags that you should turn away from.
As for me there are things that I simply refuse to put up with. I have noticed that by now I have dated my share of guys. Men love to fall in love with me but they don’t stay with me. It’s not my fault. At least I don’t think it is. In my opinion I believe that I deserve to be loved in a certain way and if a man can not love me in that way then I can not be with him.
I would like a man’s love for me to be open and honest and when we have a disagreement I want to come together to figure out a solution so that it doesn’t happen again. I feel like many young men do not understand this concept. Young men can be very selfish. They want to be seen as “leaders” yet they have no idea what it’s like to actually lead a person. They want women to just say yes to every proposition they make without giving us anything in return. Men love to take but they don’t know how to give back. They think that material things are what women want and need but not it’s not. We want emotional security more than anything.
At least I do.
Yes I like nice things. But I also like nice men. Men who listen to me and consider what I’m saying and asking for out of a relationship.
But men like to be difficult as always and I refuse to settle for just any relationship. I know there’s going to be hard times but if I can’t trust you to be there for me to get through those hard times then I can’t be with you.
Anyways, this was just another random single black female post. Continue on with your Sunday…