I would love to have a friend like Paul. Paul was great, he was single, he didn’t have any distractions, and he dedicated his life to the Lord. Paul didn’t need a spouse. His main purpose in life was to spread the word of God to people and proclaim the name of Jesus. What I also love about Paul is that he was straightforward with the people he loved. Especially in his letters to the Corinthians. He wasn’t afraid of giving people the hard truth and letting them know that they needed to repent. He didn’t sugar coat anything, and that’s how I like to be. I don’t like to tell people what they want to hear but rather tell them what they need to hear because I want what’s best for people especially the people I know and love. I hate to see people in situations that I know they don’t have to be in. I can remember this one time in college I was going out with this guy who wasn’t the greatest boyfriend to me (but that’s neither here nor there) anyways, the guy and I had broken up (probably one of the many times) and I had this friend whom I was really close with at the time. Well I remember venting to her about the break up and how horrible he was to me and she said something to me along the lines of, “Well I always wanted to tell you that you shouldn’t get back with him because he wasn’t right for you but I didn’t want to get involved.” And I was shocked after she said that. In my mind I was like, “Bro, wtf why didn’t you stop me?” I mean, I don’t know about you but I like to be warned when it seems like I’m about to make a bad decision. Nonetheless, I feel like had I of been friends with Paul in this situation he would have said something like, “Look girl, this boy right here is not the wave. You need to just relax, focus on your classes and the Lord because this young man was not ready to be in a relationship and neither are you right now. Honestly, the both of you have a lot of growing up to do.”
My man Paul.
Now don’t get me wrong. We always have a friend in Jesus but Jesus was perfect and sometimes it’s hard going to that perfect friend for advice when they’ve never experienced something you’ve been through. It doesn’t mean that they’ll give you bad advice. It just means that it can be difficult absorbing that information because you’ll be thinking, “What do you know? You’ve never done anything remotely close to this!” That’s why Paul would also make a great friend. Paul was a sinner. Paul, formerly king Saul (See Acts ch.9), was evil. He killed people for following Jesus but when God spoke to him he turned away from that life and pursued God wholeheartedly. I can only imagine how difficult it was for him at first because people didn’t believe him because he had such a dark past. Now I have a past that I’m not particularly proud of either. Sometimes I too look back and think, “Wow, I was really wildin’ back then.” It was as if I had this secret side of me that no one, except the men I was with at the time, knew about. Some of these things were still going on just last year and to this day I have moments where I still feel guilty. I still feel dirty. Yet, God still loves me just as much then when I was going from man to man as He does now. Now that I am truly single and not giving in to those temptations or looking for my next boyfriend I think about my past and thank God that I am not that woman anymore. I know that Paul would have accepted my past and would tell me that I shouldn’t worry about it anymore but instead to use it as my testimony for others going through similar situations.
I want to encourage you guys to not just find a friend like Paul but be a friend like Paul.
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