World Poetry Day

Since today is World Poetry Day I thought I’d share just a few poems by some of my favorite poets that I absolutely adore. Here they are:

 

I am not jealous
of what came before me.

Come with a man
on your shoulders,
come with a hundred men in your hair,
come with a thousand men between your breasts and your feet,
come like a river
full of drowned men
which flows down to the wild sea,
to the eternal surf, to Time!

Bring them all
to where I am waiting for you;
we shall always be alone,
we shall always be you and I
alone on earth,
to start our life!

Always by Pablo Neruda

 

Petulant priests, greedy
centurions, and one million
incensed gestures stand
between your love and me.

Your agape sacrifice
is reduced to colored glass,
vapid penance, and the
tedium of ritual.

Your footprints yet
mark the crest of
billowing seas but
your joy
fades upon the tablets
of ordained prophets.

Visit us again, Savior.
Your children, burdened with
disbelief, blinded by a patina
of wisdom,
carom down this vale of
fear. We cry for you
although we have lost
your name

Savior by Maya Angelou*

 

Because I could not stop for Death-
He kindly stopped for me-
The Carriage held but just Ourselves-
And Immortality.

We slowly drove- He knew no haste
And I had put away
My labor and my leisure too,
For His Civility-

We passed the School, where Children strove
At Recess- in the Ring-
We passed the Fields of Gazing Grain-
We passed the Setting Sun-

Or rather- He passed us-
The Dews drew quivering and chill-
For only Gossamer, my Gown-
My Tippet- only Tulle-

We paused before a House that seemed
A Swelling of the Ground-
The Roof was scarcely visible-
The Cornice- in the Ground-

Since then- ’tis Centuries- and yet
Feels shorter than the Day
I first surmised the Horses’ Heads
Were toward Eternity-

Because I Could Not Stop for Death by Emily Dickinson

 

if it doesn’t come bursting out of you
in spite of everything,
don’t do it.
unless it comes unasked out of your
heart and your mind and your mouth
and your gut,
don’t do it.
if you have to sit for hours
staring at your computer screen
or hunched over your
typewriter
searching for words,
don’t do it.
if you’re doing it for money or
fame,
don’t do it.
if you’re doing it because you want
women in your bed,
don’t do it.
if you have to sit there and
rewrite it again and again,
don’t do it.
if it’s hard work just thinking about doing it,
don’t do it.
if you’re trying to write like somebody
else,
forget about it.
if you have to wait for it to roar out of
you,
then wait patiently.
if it never does roar out of you,
do something else.

if you first have to read it to your wife
or your girlfriend or your boyfriend
or your parents or to anybody at all,
you’re not ready.

don’t be like so many writers,
don’t be like so many thousands of
people who call themselves writers,
don’t be dull and boring and
pretentious, don’t be consumed with self-
love.
the libraries of the world have
yawned themselves to
sleep
over your kind.
don’t add to that.
don’t do it.
unless it comes out of
your soul like a rocket,
unless being still would
drive you to madness or
suicide or murder,
don’t do it.
unless the sun inside you is
burning your gut,
don’t do it.

when it is truly time,
and if you have been chosen,
it will do it by
itself and it will keep on doing it
until you die or it dies in you.

there is no other way.

and there never was.

So You Want to Be a Writer by Charles Bukowski *

Take this kiss upon the brow!
And, in parting from you now,
Thus much let me avow-
You are not wrong, who deem
That my days have been a dream;
Yet if hope has flown away
In a night, or in a day,
In a vision, or in none,
Is it therefore the less gone?
All that we see or seem
Is but a dream within a dream.

I stand amid the roar
Of a surf-tormented shore,
And I hold within my hand
Grains of the golden sand-
How few! yet how they creep
Through my fingers to the deep,
While I weep- while I weep!
O God! can I not grasp
Them with a tighter clasp?
O God! can I not save
One from the pitiless wave?
Is all that we see or seem
But a dream within a dream?

 

A Dream Within A Dream by Edgar Allen Poe

The Pool Players.
Seven at the Golden Shovel.

We real cool. We
Left school. We

Lurk late. We
Strike straight. We

Sing sin. We
Thin gin. We

Jazz June. We
Die soon.

We Real Cool by Gwendolyn Brooks *

 

I hope that you guys enjoyed reading these as much as I did when I first read them. Poetry has always been my favorite writing style especially when it comes to reading and exploring different writers. From the prose to the detail to the absolute rawness and vulnerabilty that these writers bring is something that I’ve always wanted to include in my own writing whether it’s through my blogs or personal writing. If you noticed, some of the authors have an asterisk* beside them. Those are my Top 3 favourite poets in no particular order however, all of these writers mean a great deal to me. I remember being a senior in high school reading We Real Cool for the first time. My heart stopped once I got to the last two lines and I immediately had to find more of her work. But enough about my poetry geekness. I hope that you all got a chance to explore some great poetry today and if you want you can read some of my own pieces here. Lastly, what are some of your favorite poems or poets? I’d love to hear from you in a comment below!

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Under attack?

I feel like the devil has really been coming after me lately. A few people know already but last wednesday I was in another car accident. I’m okay. A little sore still but I’ll be fine.

 

Anyways, no one likes to get in to car accidents. To me it just seemed like yet another thing for me to deal with. It just felt like moment after moment I was being hit (no pun inteded) with more bad news. For starters, my insurance company didn’t want to pay for my car to get fixed. Or should I say, my CLAIMS ADJUSTER didn’t. My car barely looked scratched and as for inside work it was the same. He wouldn’t let me get a second opinion, he didn’t want to release my car to me, he wouldn’t even let me keep my rental car for a SECOND DAY even though Geico says that they would pay for it for up to THREE days.

 

But upon dealing with all of that I can say that through it all I have been surrounded by so many people reaching out to me and praying over me. I honestly get so overwhelmed by the many prayers I’ve received. The past five days have been really challenging. Mentally, physically, and spiritually. But one thing stood out to me during this past Sunday’s service. My pastor said something along the lines of, “Christians always try to act surprised when the devil attacks you.” And boy was I surpised when I got hit by that postal truck. Plus my insurance company showing ZERO sympathy for me was exactly what I needed after that. My prayers have been short but they were still there. It just felt like what am I supposed to pray for when I keep expecting to get more bad news? As Christians we shouldn’t be so surprised when satan attacks. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy right?

 

Why am I discouraged?
    Why is my heart so sad?
I will put my hope in God!
    I will praise him again—
    my Savior and my God! 

Psalm 42:11

 

But who knows. God may have allowed this to happen but He kept me alive through it all. The devil may have tried to break my spirit (and honestly may have succeeded a little) by sending his own demonic claims adjuster to inspect my car but it was finally released to me and I was able to keep it as well as get it fixed at a much better, more resonably priced shop. Before today I was so confused about what to pray for. I am so thankful that I am okay and was able to return to work. I now realize that I just have to put my hope in God. This won’t be the first time I’ll be under attack. I’m sure the devil is just waiting to strike me again but isn’t that why faith is such a wonderful thing?

 

Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.

Romans 12:12

 

Continue praying for me and as always I will continue to pray for you.

 

-Angelica

 

BTW don’t get Geico insurance, they are horrible.

Skin care

Disclaimer: This post may contain an absurd amount of selfies… you’ve been warned.

I’ve talked before about how I’ve always struggled with my skin so tonight I wanted give you guys some tips and showcase some products I’ve been using lately that have been helping clear my skin. I’ll also be showing you guys some pictures of how my skin have evolved over the past two years. Here we go!

1. WASH YOUR MAKEUP OFF AT NIGHT! And good. Especially if you wear full coverage foundation it’s important that you really deep clean to get the makeup and dirt out of your pores. This is one of the things that started my skin care journey and perhaps one of the most important.(Notice I’ll tell you later what the most important is.)

This was about fall of 2014 I wanna say? As you can see I’m wearing foundation but the acne scares are still very visible.

2. Witch Hazel I love this product because if your like me, there’s something about seeing the dirt on the cotton pad that gives you a certain feeling of cleanliness lol I don’t use it all the time but maybe once or twice a week.

This was Spring of 2016 I’m not sure if I have on foundation but it doesn’t seem like it. I think around this time I kinda took a break from it. I have really oily skin so I noticed that using foundation every day would cause me to have even more breakouts.

3. Garnier Skin Active I got this last week at Rite Aid. It was on clearance for like $2 so I HAD TO TRY IT. I had read somewhere that a brightener would help with scaring. I was using Vitamin E oil but it was kinda heavy and I have scarring all over my face so I wasn’t about lather up in oil every night before bed. I really love this because it moisturizes my face really good and is very light.

I think these were taken in 2016? I’m judging based on my hairstyle and jewelry that I’m wearing 😂 but as you can see breakouts were very common for me. I realized last year that cutting out a lot of sugar helped me stop breaking out so much. I’m not saying you can’t have sugar, but just not toooo much sugar!

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4. Cetaphil if there’s only one product on this list that you go out and purchase then PLEASE GET THIS PRODUCT! If your familiar with Zendaya (I absolutely love her) she is who I got this from! I have her app (because I’m that obsessed) and she talks about skin care and this was one of the things she recommended. It’s about $5 at Walmart and it REALLY works. Burns like hell the first few times you put it on but after a while I think your skin gets used to it and doesn’t really burn. If you have really sensitive skin then I would suggest you be careful about this one tho. But if you don’t have sensitive skin then I’d suggest you get this. Makes your skin feel SO clean and I use the clearly brighter sunscreen after. I’m telling you guys. After a long day these two products together feel amazing! But feel free to use whatever moisturizer you like!


Those first few pictures were of me in full foundation. Well now I’ll get to some more recent ones. This was last year and even though there’s a filter you can clearly (no pun intended) see how much my acne and scarring has cleared up.

This was me about three months ago with no filter and a lot of my scarring has disappeared.

 

5. Stress MAJOR KEY ALERT 🔑 *DJ Khaled voice* this is the most important tip I believe there is. Once you eliminate some of the stress from your life I’m telling you, your skin will thank you.

 

 Here’s another recent pic of me about a month or two ago. Like I said earlier what I’ve been doing is not wearing as much foundation especially since I work full time now. I do not have time to spend on my makeup in the morning. But when I do I now use a higher quality full coverage foundation. Investing in a high quality foundation is important if you have troubled skin. I recommend talking to a makeup expert about what type of foundation would best work for your skin. I recently bought this foundation by Two Faced. It was about $42 but it was DEFINITELY a good investment and only use it about once or twice a week.

6. Mario Badescu OKAY Y’ALL I’m finally hip! I was using this Cucumber rose water spray I got from Marshall’s and it worked well but once I got this, girl! I know some people use it as setting spray and I do too but I also like to use it in the morning to just wake up and hydrate my skin. Plus is smells AMAZING! I got this on amazon for about $8

I know by now y’all are super tired of seeing my face but I had to show you guys a pic of me from just a few days ago. I would love to show you a pic of how my skin looked about 4 years ago but I can’t find one and I’m posting this from my phone and not my computer. Nonetheless, I hope you guys enjoyed my tips. So don’t spend hundreds of $$$ on skin care products when you can get clearer skin for just pennies on the dollar. All of these products are under $10 although I’m not entirely sure how much the Garnier Clearly Brighter moisturizer is at the full retail price but I’m sure it’s no more than $15. Everyone’s skin is different and we all have our own ways of getting through but no matter what type of skin you have STILL LOVE YOURSELF! And if you have any tips of your own then comment them below! I’d love to hear what you guys and girls use.

Oh wait!

7. ONE LAST TIP! Btw I still use my good ol’ Black Soap by Shea moisture ($5 @Walmart). And I love using this after taking off my full coverage foundation instead of the Cetaphil because it’s I think it’s less harsher on my skin and then after I use either my moisturizer or just a lil bit of my coconut oil if I want to keep it natural!

$3.99 and Lidl’s

The Liebster

So the other day I was at work bored (don’t tell anyone) and I was scrolling through WordPress reading some blogs that I follow and saw that I was mentioned in one of my friends blogs and she nominated me for this award as a way to inform other readers of blogs that they’ve enjoyed reading.

 

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting mbmdotlife at church last year through one of my good friends from my old church. We even ended up in the same small group, which was amazing by the way. Anyways, you guys should check out her blog. It’s full of faith, fashion, and lots of other good stuff (Like a recipe for crockpot apple cider that looks delish!) I can assure you that you’ll love it.

 

Well here we go, here are 10 random facts about me:

 

  1. I am left-handed
  2. My favorite season is Spring. I have terrible seasonal allergies sometimes but I love the cool air and flowers in bloom.
  3. I am bi-racial. My mother is black and my father is Mexican. 
  4. I guess you can say i’m pretty tall. I’ve been 5’7 and a half since the 7th grade and that was interesting. 
  5. I love changing my hairstyle. I feel like it’s my way of expressing myself.
  6. I’m pretty quiet around people. Actually I am very quiet around people. I didn’t start really being social and having friends until college lol 
  7. I LOVE sweets. Cookies, cakes, ice cream and chocolate. Especially DARK CHOCOLATE. Omg. 
  8. I am a catlady. Her name is Luna and she’s my pride and joy. 
  9. I have four tattoos: FAITH, LOVE, Si se Puede, and a feather. Gonna get my half sleeve one day…
  10. I work as a pharmacy tech in a free clinic for individuals who are below poverty and can’t afford insurance.

 

And here are my other questions from mbmdotlife

 

1. What inspired you to create your blog?

I created this blog after a pretty tough breakup as a way to express my feelings and emotions at the time. I also wanted to reach out to other women who went through similar situations.

2. What are 3 of your goals for this year?

My three goals for this year would be to: Start back taking some classes this year. Dig deeper into the Word and read more books. Also, to take a vacation sometime this summer because I could use one. 

3. What do you feel your purpose is?

I feel like my purpose is to serve women. I have always had a heart for women. I remember I was dating this guy in college and he asked me what I wanted to do in the future and I told him that I wanted to start a non profit to help young women find jobs and do better in school and he told me that it was unfair that I wanted to cater to only women and not young men as well. What an ass, right? 

4. What’s your favorite restaurant?

As much as I should say Mi Hacienda because I go there at least once a month. I think that Panchito’s comes in a close second. They’re both mexican restaurants of course.

5. What is your favorite place that you’ve traveled to?

Texas. I loved it. It was everything I have ever imagined.

6. Whats your favorite store?

The beauty supply store. Guuurl, I can blow some stacks up in there!! They have everything my little heart desires. Hair, makeup, more hair!

7. Which season do you like best?

Spring! I really like being outside and I love the fresh flowers like I said earlier. Flowers make me happy. 

8. Whats your dream job?

My dream job would be to work for a museum as an art collector, although I think I’d be happy as a party planner as well. 

9. What do you feel like your biggest obstacle has been in life, How did you get over it?

I think that one of my biggest obstacles has been not finishing college but as I was studying to get my pharm tech license, I worked some jobs I didn’t like, sometimes taking two jobs at a time to pay for my bills and gained the experience I needed to get to where I am and I did it. I have a job that I love with benefits and I couldn’t be more thankful.

10. What are you interested in that most people aren’t?

I like bad movies. Well maybe not “bad” but I like those low budget films that come on tv or netflix that hardly anyone has seen. Especially the black television films. They’re not that bad and have so much potential, well they did. 

 

So I hope you guys enjoyed my post of yet even more things about me. Now it’s my turn to nominate two other bloggers to post their own versions of what I did. So I am nominating…

TheThird7even

TheIntricateWorldofNicole

I have enjoyed these ladies blogs since I started following them and I am not just saying that because I know them personally! But because I have read and been able to relate and I know that you guys will too!

My questions for you are:

  1. What sparked your faith?
  2. Who inspires you?
  3. What do you like to do that cheers you up when you’re feeling down?
  4. Where is someplace you’ve always wanted to go?
  5. What is your favorite item of clothing?
  6. What do you hope readers get to take from your blogs?
  7. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  8. What is your favorite animal?
  9. When you were younger, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  10. What music do you like to listen to?

 

And if you want further explanation for this game here you go!

The Liebster Award is:

An award that exists only on the internet and is given to bloggers by other bloggers, whose work they find interesting, to motivate them and promote them as well. The earliest case of the award goes as far back as 2011. Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome.

The Official Rules of the Liebster Award 2017:

Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog. Try to include a little promotion for the person who nominated you. They will thank you for it and those who you nominate will also help you out as well.

Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)
Write a 150-300 word post about your favorite blog that is not your own. Explain why you like the blog, provide links.

Provide 10 random facts about yourself. (This year I’m making this optional. If you wish to engage with your readers it’s a great idea to include random facts about you.)
Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 200 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)

List these rules in your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to: Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post or mine if you don’t have all the information so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it)!

Don’t forget to create 10 questions for them to answer. Notify your nominees and provide a link to your post so that they’ll know what to do. Once you’re done, come back here and comment with the link to your post so others (and me) can check out your answers!

 

 

 

 

 

Symphony of Illumination

I have decided to do something I’ve never done before. When I started my blog I was hesitant about posting my writing but now I’ve decided to post just a few short pieces of my poetry writings.

I hope you enjoy.

 

 

I fell in love with my solitude

And I rose with the wind

Into my writing

Through my words

And directly and intently in front of you.

 

 

 

 

What would you say if I told you that he hurt me more than you?

I didn’t think that I could experience a pain like this.

Again.

I live with a constant dagger in my heart.

I love with a constant dagger in my heart.

What would you say if I told you I spent more nights in bed crying our first month together, than our first year?

 

You think love can’t get any harder, it does.

 

 

 

I sought to wait for you

To take hold of the moment when He brought you to me

I didn’t realized you were here all along

I look for you in the clouds My inspiration comes from above

The Life of a Hopeless lover

 

 

And who knows, maybe one day I’ll allow myself to fall in love with him but until then I must continue to live my life loving me for who I am.

 

 

Anyways, I hope you all enjoyed this and as always, thanks for reading!

Do you

Sometimes I sit in my room and think to myself, “Wow, there’s people in this world that genuinely do not like me.” But then I realize that for every person that doesn’t like me, there’s like 10 people who adore me!

But this isn’t some vain post about all the people I’m cool with or how many friends I have.

This post is about how sometimes you’ll come across people who don’t or just stop liking you. And that’s okay. Who knows why these people stopped liking me; and I’m not talking about just ex best friends, there’s ex boyfriends that really despise me too but I’ve realized that I can not reverse who I am as a person. I am strong, I am opinionated, and I tell people the honest truth without sugar coating things. For example, if you’re dating a sh*tty guy, I am going to tell you that he’s a sh* tty guy and that you deserve better because I want what’s best for you. I’ve realized that some women just aren’t strong enough to simply walk away from bad relationships like I am and that’s okay.

(Actually it’s not okay. Know your worth child!)

As for ex boyfriends, I know that I am not perfect but I also want what’s best for me. No I haven’t always made the best relationship decisions, but I have always had the strength to walk away from each one when it became more than I could handle. It was when I realized that my sad/miserable days outweighed my happy/content days within my relationship. In the most humble way possible I tell myself that I deserve the best because I believe that I myself am the best and I am worthy of a healthy and God driven love. If I am not receiving what I want out of a relationship then it’s time for me to leave. But for some reason, some of my ex’s believe that this was “asking for too much” or me being “spoiled” so they dislike me because I decided to walk away from them without continuing to put up with their mess.

Well yes. I am spoiled. I was spoiled by a man that loves me unconditionally and worked hard to provide for me and show me what a real man is like.

Thank you daddy.

But anyways, I say all of that to say this; there will be people that come around and will genuinely not like you and there isn’t anything you can do about it but to accept it. People come into your life for reasons and it teaches you something about them. That people are not perfect. We all have flaws and insecurities and oftentimes these people will try to break YOUR spirit and take it out on YOU. But you need not to worry about these people. Block them, move on with your life, and enjoy the peace God gives you when you realize that you don’t even need these people in your life. Think about the people that do like you and think your amazing and a joy to be around. These are the people that matter.

betterkanye

Update* I forgot to mention go follow the new Instagram: @alliamisyoursblog

1:40am

Sometimes I feel like I give too much of myself away too easily. It’s like I constantly hand out love without expecting any love in return. It’s been quite an issue of mine over the past few years. Lately it feels like people are constantly taking and taking and taking from me. Not that I mind giving anything away if I have it but it’s causing me to feel drained. As if the life is being sucked away from me and I have little to nothing left. 

Even then somehow I still manage to muster up a corner of what’s left of me to give to the next person. 

“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭11:28‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Sometimes that’s all I want in return.

Rest. 

Love that will not let me go

As single Christians I have noticed that there is such a huge emphasis on finding the right person that it often becomes a bigger priority than our walk with Christ. We always hear about establishing a relationship with Christ and then He will send us the person we are meant to be with.

 

But what if you aren’t meant to be with anyone? What if God is calling you to be like Paul? Work for Him spreading the Good News and being single the rest of your life? Will you follow His calling?

 

I wanted to ask this question because in my first year of singleness I felt like there were too many people pushing me to find someone to be with. Of course with me being the person that I am, I wasn’t going to settle for just anyone. But it made me think about other women and men who fall into the trap of spending the rest of your life worrying about if this is the day your soulmate will walk in your life. Maybe you’ve imagined yourself walking into a coffee shop and you’ll look over and God will whisper in to your ear saying, “That’s the one.” We get so caught up trying to date and meet people that we lose our focus from God. Yes, finding our significant other is something we all want but what if God is not calling you to be with anyone? Yes, majority of us will fall in love and get married (God doesn’t really call that many people to stay single for the rest of their lives) but I asked the question about Paul earlier because I had to accept the fact that if God didn’t have anyone for me then I would still be happy.

 

If you truly believe that Jesus is enough for you and that He is your rock and Salvation then why do you feel the need to have anyone else?

 

During my second year of singleness I had come to the realization that if God wanted me to spend the rest of my life doing something I absolutely love and spreading the love and Word of Christ, then I didn’t need a man and I would still be happy.

 

So light a fire in my heart and I’ll burn for You. 

 

I believe that if we truly put our focus on God and living for Him then of course He will give us the desires of our heart. People would tell me all the time, “God will send you your man when you’re least expecting it.” So I took that time of “least expecting” and challenged myself to really strive after Christ and push myself to really live for Him and to love others.

 

So I started this blog. I wanted to help other women (and now men) on their journey through singleness. But it has also really helped me from removing a growing need for companionship into an evergrowing need for Christ.

 

My vision for writing this post was not to convince people to stop dating or to bash my friends for trying to get me to talk to guys. It is to challenge any single Christians reading this to make sure that your want for marriage does not hold a bigger place in your heart than your relationship with Christ.

 

“Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me.”

‭‭John‬ ‭15:4‬ ‭NLT‬‬

 
Like always, thanks for reading and remember to comment, like and share! Also continue sending me your questions/concerns here!

 

Listen to Oh Love That Will Not Let Me Go by Ascend the Hill

 

Transparency post and slight rant. Thoughts at 2:46am

I love social media. I love watching and sharing funny videos and memes with all my friends. I love being able to share my struggles and my accomplishments on my Facebook page because I know that the people I accept in that part of my life just surround me with so much love. 

However, recently it’s come to my attention that that is not always the case. Most of my pages are private and often times I choose not to accept requests from certain people because I simply don’t want them knowing the information I put out there about me. But lately I’ve had to pull back from the things I post on social media because there are people who I’ve given access to follow/friend me on my pages and they’ve taken it upon themselves to spread MY personal life to people that I would have preferred not to know where I work or where I hang out and who for that matter and yes it’s upsetting. 

But it’s also rewarding that some people live such boring lives that they look to my life for excitement. Yes, me, this awkward flat chested tall girl with acne who didn’t talk to anyone throughout elementary, middle and high school has grown up to be the topic of discussion in some people’s mouths. 

Thank you. 

End rant.

Why do guys take so long to ask a girl out on a date? 

Yes, here I go again.

 

I feel like I’ve touched on this topic before but once again it’s popped up in to my mind yet again and I am sitting here wondering why are guys so afraid? I get it, rejection is hard but if the girl is clearly in to you then why are you taking so long?

 

Are you like me? Do guys sometimes message you, send you subtle flirty texts, tell you how you guys should, “hang out” but never really follow through. Well, this post is for you and I am here to tell you to LEAVE THESE GUYS ALONE.

 

Sis, stop wasting your time. If a guy was REALLY interested in you then he would have already taken iniative to ask you out on a clear date. I am telling you all of this because this was me. I would feed in to the cute messages guys would send me about hanging out with the hopes that maybe it would turn in to an actual date but it never happened. Guys love attention just as much as we do and getting it from a cute girl just boosts their ego even more. Now if you’re just looking for a good time then go right ahead, text these guys. But if you’re like me and are tired of young men wasting your precious time then move on. Keep it at a strictly friendship level because as soon as you guys start hanging out he’ll start complaing about how he’s in the “frienzone.” Well, because you put yourself there my guy.

 

But I digress.

 

What you don’t want to do is become emotionally invested in a guy that’s not taking the time to pursue you the way you deserve. Men go after what they want and if he truly wanted you then he would tell you straight up that he’s interested in getting to know you on more than a friendship level.

 

Now in the mean time, prepare yourself for when a guy finally does step to you like a real man and asks you out.

 

But I’ll save that part for another post though…

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